Helpful Resources

Below are some resouces I've put together for you that might be of help.

Meditations and Visualizations

Visualization and meditation can facilitate positive changes in the body and brain.

Communication problems mostly arise from one of the following –
- Blaming yourself. This leads to feelings of anxiety, guilt and defensiveness.
- Blaming others. This leads to anger, hostility, rebellion and self-righteousness.
- Blaming fate. This leads to self-pity and a need to control others.
Connect before you correct, or problem solve –
- Connecting means listening with your heart to see your partners' perspective.
- Listen for what is important to your partner. For example, hurts or unmet needs.
- Tell the person, in your own words, what you think you have heard.
- Ask questions to clarify and ensure understanding.
- Then ask the person if you have understood correctly.
- Find something in what they said, felt, or meant to agree with.
- Share how you are feeling or thinking, for example, "I feel ..."
Tell your partner how you feel, not what's wrong with them –
- Start with something you both agree with.
- State opionions as something to consider not as fact or undisputeable truths.
- Be respectful.
- View differences as normal not "bad."